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My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

12.06.2025 20:30

My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

And during this process, they either started seeing someone new who they planned to secure as their rebound option or were busy creating their post-breakup plan.

So, don't try to compete with them.

What they do doesn't matter and it's completely irrelevant to your healing process, though it’s valid to hate and judge them harshly for leaving the way they did.

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Simply put, because they have been prepared and you weren't.

Instead, focus on taking care of, solving and healing what you are experiencing right now.

This is why you can't expect them to feel anything close to what you're feeling right now, because you and them are on a completely different stage in the healing process.

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On their side, there has been a process of emotionally and mentally checking out while you were still together and while you were under the impression that everything is cool.

This happened long or shortly before they physically left.

I.e. you thought that you had the perfect deal whereas they had already made up their mind and just weren't as emotionally invested in it as you were.

Ive been pretending to be okay and acting as normal as possible, but Im actually completely heartbroken after a recent breakup. Its painful and really affecting me, to the point where I cant concentrate at work, Ive lost my appetite, I cant sleep, and It feels as if my whole world has been turned upside down. I loved him so much. He said so many cruel things to me and it made me realize he must not have loved me the way I loved him, or he wouldnt have said such horrible things. How do I handle the heartbreak and why cant I accept that he didnt love me and just forget about him?

This is why comparing yourself to them in terms of the healing process isn't going to help you in any way, shape or form.

You both are on polar opposites of the scale.